Making the most of Christmas

Svendsen family get-togethers.

I can honestly say that there have not been too many times when we were all together.  Two weddings, a funeral, several Christmases, a cruise, and the rare times when we coalesced in the summer.  Nine, maybe ten times in all.  Over 35 years it averages out to about once every three years.  That's a long time apart when kids are involved.  

OK, so maybe you don't get along with all your family members.  I get that, it is rare for families to be united; someone's toes always get stepped on and maybe they hold a grudge.  Perhaps it's deserved, after all, trust can be an enormous issue that is hard to get back once it is gone.  

The thing is this though - don't you think that petty differences can be put aside for the benefit of the clan?  Cousins should be able to grow up together even if the parents don't see eye to eye.  I hardly know my nieces (my son is the only male grandchild) and, now that they are grown, will not likely get to know them.  I am a stranger that used to send Christmas presents.  That's pretty much it.

I feel a great loss when it comes to family.  I wish that there were more times that we got together and got to know the kids.  Sure, there is an uncomfortable history there, but you would think we could put it aside to honour our parents and give the children a chance to bond.  It's too late now.  My father and his wives (one mother and two stepmothers) are gone, the kids are grown, and we all live hundreds or thousands of kilometers apart.  But it may not be too late for you.

Make the most of Christmas.  Get together with family and friends.  Put aside differences and let the kids get to know you and each other.  Family is important, if you want it to be. That's the key right there.  IF YOU WANT IT TO BE.  Take time and talk it over with the parties involved.  Make the effort.  As my Aunt used to say, "Be nice, be kind, be different."  

I wish all of you a very happy Christmas.  And love your family.  Please.

Thanks for reading.

Eric Svendsen     www.ericspix.com

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